TWO YEARS SOBER!!!


I am officially two years sober! 

That's 104 weeks. 730 days. 17531 hours. 63114500 (and counting) sober heartbeats. 


When I look back on the past year, I can say with total confidence that I finally feel alive and have confidence in my ability to live life in abstinence and sobriety. It's not a total confidence, but I feel strong and have the skills to be able to actually do this. There aren't many facets of my life where I can say that!

I had a look back at my blog post from my first year of sobriety and I know I was proud of myself for making it, but still grieving for the loss of my friends and feeling so guilty that I had survived but they didn't. Every single day was a fight and there were more tears than I ever thought possible. My reward for all this was my first holiday abroad just two days later. Everyone needs a carrot on a stick sometimes, right?! 

I guess the question most people struggling with their addiction or maintaining sobriety want to know is how the hell do you actually do this? I know I did and genuinely didn't believe this sort of lifestyle was possible, now here I am living in and dare I say, rocking this. 

You know what? I'm going there. I am rocking this sobriety thing! ;)


The three main tools I use when I know I am going to be in a difficult situation are:

Drinking is not an option. If you give yourself even a millimeter of space to even allow that 'maybe just one' thought into your mind, you'll lose control. I cannot stress this one enough. To me, consuming alcohol is like having arsenic poured down my throat. If I drink again, I will die. It's that simple. There are plenty of nice sober-people options at the bar if you know where to go and what to look for. A favourite of mine is slimline tonic with lime. It's sharp enough to kid yourself into thinking it's a gin and tonic or something and you don't look awkward, if you're worried about that. 

Surround yourself with people you trust. Don't go out with people who either don't know you're in recovery or don't support it. If everyone you're with knows your situation, they'll be supportive and give you a little boost of encouragement if you need it. They'll also be able to pull you away from the bar if needs be. I trust everyone I go out with to pull a drink out from under me if they either suspect there to be, or know there to be, alcohol in that drink. On a related note; if you're out at a pub or a bar and you start feeling vastly too uncomfortable with the situation, it's perfectly alright to get yourself home. Again, your friends will understand and just want you to be safe and sober! 

It's ok to say no. You can't please everyone. Putting yourself into stressful situations when you're not ready for it or don't want to be there anyway is a recipe for disaster. Your sobriety is your main priority right now and that is not a bad thing. It's not selfish or any other negative association you can think up. You fought so hard through withdrawal and detox to get to this point, do you really want to do it again? True friends will understand and support you. They might even elect to stay sober with you for the night! I love my non-drinking friends. Without them I would not have made the progress I have over the past 365 days.

As the days turn into weeks, you'll notice a difference. You'll realise your own strength and start to gain things you don't want to lose. If I hadn't have gotten to this point, I wouldn't be with my boyfriend, I wouldn't have amazing new friends, I wouldn't be at university and I wouldn't have Lily. Why? I would be dead. I came too close too many times. I don't want to die as an addict. I would much rather have people remember me for being an amazingly cool neuroscientist... ;)

One thing I absolutely love about being 'the sober one' is that I get to witness just how dumb people act when they're drunk and have potential footage for YouTube and such... I gotta get my fun somewhere, right? Haha!

My gift to all of you is to resurrect The Drink Directory and get to work on building up a comprehensive list of options for you. There is more to life than water and diet coke. There are some absolute gems out there just waiting for you to discover them! :)

Please feel free to share your sober tips in the comments!


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